"I cannot believe, in retrospect, that I was ever conned into believing that talking about feelings with a dude you were hooking up with was this embarrassing uncool thing that only clingy girls did. Today, if somebody I was boning, however casually, got judge-y or weird on me because I tried to have a conversation about my feelings, I would laugh out loud, walk out and then make fun of him to all my friends. Seriously? Feelings are not spiders or the Ebola virus. If a guy gets “scared” when you try to discuss yours with him, you should dump him and find a new hookup buddy who isn’t terrified about something that your average kindergartner can handle hearing about on Sesame Street."

 - from the comments section of The Hairpin via Sex Myth

I'm sure there are some great pieces written about how "clingy" (right after crazy) is the best scare tactic ever invented by emotionally withdrawn commitment-ambivalent men. Feel free to send my way if you find any.

UPDATE via The Gloss "Lady, You Aren't Really 'Crazy'"

When you see me walking around with him. I'm not just another chick. I'm his girl

Friends - I'm His Girl

WE'VE GOT TO BE ARTISTS OF SOME KIND

I've feel I've experienced, with my small, woman-centric film festival, an odd time capsule of America's present this weekend: the stories are different, but they share some singularities - a concern with the media, about public and private, about the constructing of a public persona for art and 'self-expression' (Aura) or to feel onself better than others (Mavis) or simply to survive (Katniss). A reticence to reflect the economic and cultural complexity of the America we live in.Only Katniss - and barely, at that - looks beyond her own concern to the wider world of "America" - increasingly impoverished, and locked in brutal war - two facts that don't exist in Aura or Mavis' America. - Jen Paton 

I love you. That's the matter.

A scene from 'Four Nights of A Dreamer" a super rare Bresson print I saw in the cinema last year. You can, of course watch the whole thing here on the YouTubes.

Also I wrote this about Four Nights of A Dreamer and a bunch of other Bresson gems, that you should watch ASAP.

Werner Herzog on John Waters

““For me a chair is a chair — and I do not reference to other possibilities … For me, a man is a man. I cannot distinguish a gay man from a straight man. I just cannot distinguish … After 35 years of knowing John Waters I turn to my wife and I said to her, ‘I have the feeling that this man is gay.’”…which is in a way wonderful, because I took him as John Waters,” Herzog shared. “And I love the man, I love him dearly, he’s a wonderful … he’s the boldest of the bold filmmakers. I wish I had the guts of this man, and he’s very, very dear to my heart — but for me this is a man. Yes, a man is a man.” Herzog went on to add, “How vaz I to know zat ziss man, who directed Hairspray, vas a gay? I had no clue. Now, if it vas za Hairspray remake, anyone could see zat ziss ist gayer zan Elton John blowing za unicorn. Not zat it matter, uff course, a man eez a man, gay or straight. As long as he ist not a cheekan, a filthy, idiotic animal I murder mit mein bare hands vissout remorse. Eez poetry.”

 - Werner Herzog on John Waters

Ms.45

Just watched Abel Ferrara's rape revenge movie Ms. 45. I haven't seen heaps of his stuff, but I was really struck by Zoe Lund in a clip I saw randomly on YouTube so I just had to watch the whole thing, about 60 minutes. Lund is totally amazing as the victim turned vigilante, also she's mute, which makes acting even more of a challenge.

Ferrara owns the streets of NYC. Also the costumes really kick ass.

Paul Feig walks us through Freaks And Geeks in 5 Parts

WANT / NEED

The Loneliest Job in the World | Tony Hoagland

As soon as you begin to ask the question, Who loves me?,
you are completely screwed, because
the next question is How Much?,

and then it is hundreds of hours later,
and you are still hunched over
your flowcharts and abacus,

trying to decide if you have gotten enough.
This is the loneliest job in the world:
to be an accountant of the heart.

It is late at night. You are by yourself,
and all around you, you can hear
the sounds of people moving

in and out of love,
pushing the turnstiles, putting
their coins in the slots,

paying the price which is asked,
which constantly changes.
No one knows why.

To Whit

Is that a genre you’d always liked and wanted to do your take?I actually wanted to do Will Ferrell movies. I love Will Ferrell and would love to do a movie with him or with Bill Murray, Steve Martin. I like those comic actors. I think they’re really great. I never got offered the kind of script that I’d want to do with them. And so I think in this case I think I sort of wrote 1/3 a sort of young Will Ferrell comedy with these guys, so that was a happy experience. Since I didn’t get offered those kind of films, I could write one myself, or at least 1/3 of one.

Did you get anywhere talking with those comedians and developing projects with them?Yeah, I’ve met Steve Martin and I’ve met Will Ferrell, had really, really nice meetings with them. I’ve never met Bill Murray. I really like those guys. I think actually Bill Murray’s the secret weapon of indie comedies because the great indie comedies he seems to be in.

I had a Whit Stillman marathon this week in prep for a feature for The Playlist, and also why not? This interview reminded me why I totally adore this man. Also vintage photo above = 90s UHB babe!

I Want To Go On A Roman Holiday

I love how Woody does a film a year, its so reliable, he's my rock of the filmic calender. And its finally here! The trailer for Roman Holiday!

Penelope Cruz and Woody Allen = The BEST!

I've always wanted to go Rome, 2013? You never know!